Getting married is a big commitment and it is one that both spouses tend to take seriously. Generally, partners intend to spend the rest of their lives together.
Nonetheless, perceptions of both marriage and divorce have shifted in recent years and divorce is no longer a taboo subject. The potential determinants of remaining in an unhappy marriage have been made clear in numerous psychological studies.
If you are finding married life difficult, you may be considering a divorce. How do you know if this is the right choice for you?
When the relationship becomes toxic
A relationship becomes toxic when one spouse or both spouses undermine one another’s sense of happiness. There may be constant heated arguments in the household, leaving both spouses feeling stressed for days afterward. Once this becomes a vicious cycle, the relationship becomes toxic.
In serious cases, toxic relationships can even turn abusive. Abuse doesn’t have to be physical, it can include words or actions that degrade a spouse, manipulation and excessive control over finances. In such situations, you need to prioritize your well-being and safety, and divorce may be the best option.
When the intimacy has gone
While marriage does involve friendship and trust, it’s important that romance is present too. Some divorcing couples don’t fight, but the romance has fizzled out of the relationship and they find themselves living more like roommates than romantic partners.
When you can envision life without your spouse
If you find yourself constantly dreaming about a future without a spouse, or, going back to times before you were married, then this could be a sign that it is time to move on. Marriage won’t be easy all the time, but envisioning a future together is crucial.
Every relationship is unique and the decision to divorce is ultimately yours. Seeking some legal guidance can help to clarify your options and ensure you make the choice that’s in your best interests.