A marriage can’t be plain sailing all the time, and most couples have disagreements. Overcoming these disagreements ultimately makes the relationship stronger.
Nonetheless, some arguments are just too serious. The reality is that a significant number of marriages still end in divorce. When a couple argues over money, things can get tricky. In fact, financial disputes are one of the leading causes of divorce.
While money isn’t everything, it allows couples to invest, start a family and have fun together. However, sometimes arguments about money represent serious differences between spouses.
Some are spenders and some are savers
Contrasting financial priorities are commonly cited in divorce proceedings. Some spouses prioritize saving while others are spenders.
When spouses are too contrasting in these areas, this can cause problems. A spouse who doesn’t like to spend carelessly isn’t likely to appreciate living with someone who spends every cent of their hard-earned money.
Secrecy can be the real marriage killer
As long as spouses are open and honest about financial issues, most disputes can be resolved. Often, secrecy is a bigger problem than differences in attitudes about money. If a spouse is unwilling to talk about money or disclose information about their finances, this creates mistrust. Once a marriage loses its trust, it can be hard to come back from that.
People have different priorities, and that includes priorities around spending and saving money. When two spouses’ priorities are in stark contrast to one another. If financial disputes have led to considerations of divorce, it may be time to start thinking about seeking legal guidance.