The period between when you resolve to divorce and when formally sever ties with your spouse can be very tense and emotionally and financially taxing – especially if you are going through a contested divorce. Every single decision made during this season can have a lasting effect on your divorce and other aspects of your life.
If you have decided to share the living space with your soon-to-be ex while working out your divorce, it is important that you lay some ground rules and avoid costly mistakes that can return to haunt you down the road. Here are two important considerations when living together during the divorce process.
Clear personal boundaries can go a long way
A moment of weakness can lead to intimacy with your soon-to-be ex. And this can complicate things for you in a number of ways. Firstly, this can impair your judgment going forward. And, secondly, you might conceive leading to the suspension of your divorce until the child is born.
As soon as you file for divorce, you need to appreciate that it is no longer going to be business as usual. Start out with obvious things like having separate bedrooms and scheduling how you will share common areas like the bathroom and the kitchen.
Sever your financial ties with your spouse
Before you sign those dotted lines, you are officially married; and you are one as far as the law is concerned. This means that everything you have accumulated, and are continuing to accumulate (assets and debts), belong to both of you and will be divided in accordance with California’s community property laws.
If you were sharing household bills during better days, now is the time to begin severing your financial ties. If you have joint debt or credit cards, be sure to cancel them. And when it comes to the household’s bills, be sure to come up with a clear roadmap on how you will split them.
Divorce, even the most amicable one is never easy. Knowing legal options and obligations during this period can help you protect your rights and interests while living together with your soon-to-be ex.